“My Ex-Husband’s Girlfriend is Trying to Control My Son”

Dear Wendy is a relationship advice blog. You can read about me here , peruse the archives here and read popular posts here. You can also follow along on Facebook and Instagram. My ex-husband Mike and I have been divorced for three years. I work seven days a week to keep us afloat, so John now spends most weekends with John and Sam. Sam has been texting John constantly, and he has been lying to me about who is texting him. My heart is breaking. I love my little boy and I feel like I am being pushed out of his life. But I feel like we need to start setting some boundaries.

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When he was pursuing you, you felt like you had control and could choose whether or not you wanted him around. At that time, you chose to reject him. You came back together and over time, things changed. In other words, he learned how to act if he wants to get rejected by you and he learned how to act if he wants you to chase him. If I were in his position, I would continue acting in the way that has you chasing.

It’s the middle of the night and you’re warm and relaxed. Suddenly, you hear a strange voice, saying weird things. You tense up when you realize that it’s right next to you.

The Rules Revisited I’ve dated countless women and it has always amazed me how little they know about men. If nothing else, this blog is an outlet for voicing my astonishment at the typical female’s ignorance of the male mindset. At most, it is a reliable source of advice for women who want to improve their chances with the opposite sex. Tuesday, July 24, No, You Can’t Be “Just Friends” I’ve lost count of the times girls have tried being “just friends” with me after I’ve called off the relationship.

It’s happened after one-night stands , it’s happened after dating girls for a few weeks, it even happened after having a serious girlfriend. And I know this isn’t only something I’ve experienced.

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You know that dating after 40 (or at any stage of life, for that matter!) is not exactly a rose garden every moment. When you appreciate the same is true for the men you date, it will go a long way toward building compassion and, in turn, building relationships.

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That night we started having our usual sex with my girlfriend starting on top. As she was rubbing her clit up and down my cock to get wet, out of nowhere she started chatting about the swinging scene and did it turn me on, then on to would I like watching another guy inside her. She must have been keeping the same feelings as I had as her pussy was dripping within seconds.

We had pretty good sex and after we started chatting about what we had spoken about. One thing led to another and before I knew it we were looking online for guys that my girlfriend could chat to. Most people seem to take quite a long time to find a guy that suits them but we got a perfect one within minutes.

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June 17, at Thank you for sharing. It sounds like you are going through a difficult time right now. Clearly there are some trust issues in your relationship. How are you going to handle this situation moving forward?

The 10 Worst Reasons to Stay Friends With Your Ex Remaining friends for the wrong reasons can end up hurting you both. Posted May 20,

November 9, at Talk about feeling totally unloved, lied too, deceived etc etc. Decided not a really cool thing to do. And developing your business. Right there with you hon! Take care xx Emmy November 11, at Lisa Rey November 17, at 9: A bit of advice for Rochelle…I feel your pain! We met at work and while I was returning from lunch we met in the elevator….

I introduced myself and he said he starts work on the following mon. He flew back home, moved to Austin Tx…. He did…we got married, he loved my 9 mo.

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Many former couples, whether dating partners or spouses , try to remain friends after a break-up, and some are able to manage this transition successfully. Research suggests, however, that on average exes tend to have lower-quality friendships than opposite- sex friends who were never romantically involved. This is especially true, not surprisingly, for former partners who were dissatisfied with the romantic relationship , and in cases when the break-up was not mutual.

The probability that a friendship with an ex will be a positive rather than painful experience depends in part on your motives, including those you’d rather not openly acknowledge. Here are 10 reasons that can get you into trouble:

2. “Remember that time when ” They say that absence makes the heart grow fonder, and in most cases, that is absolutely true. Time away from a relationship tends to make the bad parts of a pairing seem less and less important.

Keep it simple ladies. Let’s assume you believe that your happiness is something a man should grant you – and not something you have to grant yourself. Let’s say you’ve been prodding and poking around about his feelings, if he cares for you and where this may lead. You are driving the car relationship and you are now effectively letting fear and insecurity steer the wheel. So just know this and be prepared for it ladies.

Don’t panic and go off the rails.

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Men are easy like that. But if you actually want him back, for keeps, then you have to get a little more creative. There are rules when it comes to the things to say to get your ex boyfriend back.

It’s the middle of the night and you’re warm and relaxed. Suddenly, you hear a strange voice, saying weird things. You tense up when you realize that it’s right next to you.

A hurtful act is the transference to others of the degradation which we bear in ourselves. Your pain is invisible or, if pointed out, is of no consequence. Relating to, support of, caring what you experience, and understanding what you are going through, is not available in a relationship with a narcissist. Relating to A Narcissist Watching a narcissist ingratiate himself to those he wants to please and from whom he wants admiration, you becomes an observer of the morphing from one persona to another.

Finding out that someone you love has no understanding of others feelings and pain can hit like a ton of bricks. Every awakening experienced seems like the worst. There is nothing wrong, except their fear of the Pandora Box Effect. If you challenge the status quo, find your voice, and let people know what living with this person is really like, you unleash enormous rage. It is the strength to look at those who can not see your pain and not despair of their less than normal reaction.

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You want a potential mate to know that your life includes the giant presence of a kid or four. But I bristle at those lines. People who really enjoy each other. Respect and support one another.

This is great! And came at the perfect time!! I always feel bad for having needs. Thank you for validating them! The current guy I am dating is making me feel like a burden.

You feel like you are going crazy. They turn everything around. They will make you feel like you are the one that is going crazy instead of them. You might become paranoid. You might worry about what you wear and what you say and freak out if someone changes your plans or something unexpected happens that you will have to explain later. If you are a peaceful person, you might find yourself constantly fighting.

You might explode when you get too frustrated. You feel like there is something seriously wrong with you. You feel like you are walking on eggshells. Get a job offer in another state? Agree to babysit for your sister? You might be terrified of what your partner will say or do if you tell them.

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As I discuss in Dating the Divorced Man , here are a few questions to ask yourself: Where is He in the Divorce Process? They need to deal with the legalities of the divorce, figure out their living and financial situations, separate their belongings, etc.

Um, it is COMPLETELY appropriate for you to critique your ex’s girlfriend as her behavior relates to your son. You are John’s mother and, as uncomfortable as it may feel to go to your ex and discuss the way his girlfriend is acting, it’s your job to protect your son.

As part of the on-the-job training of life, situations that hurt you make you aware of your needs. Spend enough time in a relationship subsisting on crumbs and you experience a painful awakening about your unmet needs. Quite simply, some of us have no clue what our needs are. We might see them as indistinguishable from wants. The best description of needs and wants is by financial expert, Karen McCall: This can cause you to train yourself out of having needs.

You might do without. It could be settling for crumbs or filling the void with something else e. You do have them but have either forgotten about their existence or given up on trying to meet them. To compensate, you take on a role e. Take care of me. We need trust in our interpersonal relationships. Any situation that has brought up pain and discomfort for you is flagging up your emotional needs.

We all have them, no one is exempt.

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